"Why Am I Unable to Regulate My Emotions?"

Humans are not a simple entity. Although it may seem that a person is just one individual, a person's thoughts originate from the brain. Therefore, when our brain is active and has impulsive thoughts, we ourselves cannot control it, and can only follow the actions indicated by the brain. This is why sometimes people cannot control their emotions.

I. Why Can't We Control Our Emotions?

1. Emotions and Cognition. A person is an individual, and their emotions are determined by their cognition. For example, some people may feel deceived by someone and decide to stop associating with them, without experiencing strong emotional fluctuations. However, others may feel extremely angry and may even have impulses to conflict with others. This is the relationship between emotions and cognition.

2. Loss of Control is a Subjective Evaluation Afterwards. Whether we judge ourselves to have lost control or not is mainly determined by subjective evaluation afterwards. Although you may feel that you shouldn't have said something unpleasant to them or done something impulsive, they may not feel that it was a loss of control, but just an emotional expression.

II. What to Do When You Can't Control Your Emotions?

1. Think about the Consequences of Being Irritable. When we are irritated, it is easy to do extreme things. It can range from damaging objects to hurting ourselves and others. But after the fact, we are filled with regret. Is it really worth it? So before acting impulsively, please think about the consequences.

2. Read Psychology Books. Buy a few professional psychology books and read them. I believe you can find some life insights in them that will help you find your way out of confusion. You need guidance from books because there are things that cannot be figured out by oneself.